“Resistance is Futile” said the Borg from Star Trek and they are right. The more I try to fight something the worse it gets.
Once I relinquish my opposition the conflict ends and everything smooths out. This does not mean standing in the middle of the road waiting to get run over but it does mean not trying to force something one way or the other.
Just like those Chinese finger puzzles we used to play with as kids. The harder you try to pull the tighter they get. As soon as you relax they slip right off… That is a good lesson for me to remember!