Monday, May 6, 2019

Embrace the Challenge

I have learned so much about myself in the past decade, that I barely remember who I used to be.  The years of struggle and hardship now have faded into a distant memory of what seems to be someone else's life.

Now I understand that every challenge has been an opportunity for me to grow beyond anything I could have done otherwise.  My greatest achievement has been to see and appreciate every lesson.

Saturday, May 4, 2019

You Can Get There From Here (Or Wherever You Are)

It's the most incredible experience to begin with so little and end up with so much.  I want to say never, in my wildest dreams - but the truth is I did dream it.  Every story I read or heard about beautiful places and incredible lives sent me off into a fantastic daydream of being there and living that life.  

Now I'm here, sitting at a rooftop bar, at a gorgeous hotel overlooking the beach and wondering how a simple girl from Iowa ended up here.  It wasn't the life that I ever expected but somehow it all happened.  





Saturday, March 23, 2019

What Message Are You Sending?



Every thought and emotion we have broadcasts a message into the universe.  The message we are sending is what will ultimately come back to us, no exceptions.  If you aren’t sure what that message is, just look at what is showing up in your life.  If it is fear and pain, you will know it because that is what your day to day experience is.  If it is love and joy, you will know by the fullness of what you feel in your heart.
Our vibration is a powerful force in our lives.  Once we begin to understand that it reverberates into the universe, amplifying whatever we primarily think and feel, we can harness that power to improve our experience.
Every day I try to remind myself that it is worth the effort to release whatever bad or uncomfortable situation I may be dealing with, even though some days that is very difficult.  But if I can make even the smallest improvement in how I am feeling, I can see the shift that occurs almost immediately. 
Once I have a little perspective on whatever is bothering me, I can move a little further toward the relief that I seek.  Before I know it, something interesting or ironic occurs that reminds me that this is all a huge cosmic game and the better I feel, the more fun I have and the more fun I have, the better I feel.  It all works together in a way that I can’t even explain.
Today is the only day we have to make anything happen.  Thoughts really do become things and if I want to have a better tomorrow then it is critical that I make the most of today.







Friday, March 1, 2019

The Beauty of Aging

Aging is such an interesting journey.  At 50, I was in love and living in Ireland.  My life was so full of joy that I was convinced life couldn't get any better.

Back at home, after turning 60, a shift occurred that I never expected.  In an instant, my life became very clear.  I no longer believed that I had forever but at the same time was sure that life was just beginning. 

It was a moment that carried me far beyond anything I could have ever imagined.  No more longing for the past or wishing for what could have been.  My vision was fixed clearly on my future, no matter how long or short that might be. 

The gratitude and appreciation I have for making to it to this point is immeasurable.  So much has happened, that in no small way, I'm amazed to have made it this far.

I'm no longer living for someone else,  but finally,  maybe for the first time ever, for myself. 

There is something so beautiful and pure about this process.  We never know where we are going until after we have arrived. It's only then that we truly discover where the path was leading. 





Wednesday, January 9, 2019

Always Be Grateful

I was having dinner in Dublin, feeling very happy and spoiled when I received a powerful reminder to always be grateful. All through my meal I noticed my server working very hard and seemed much busier or at least more attentive than anyone else.

As I was getting ready to leave she asked where I was from in the US and then told me she was moving to New York.  She had been selected from an event in Ireland to work in the US.  She was so excited and very nervous.

What a fantastic opportunity for a young woman from eastern Europe who I'm certain has had challenges that I can't even imagine.  Suddenly I felt a strong sense of the immense privilege that I've been blessed with.  Thinking that even the most meager upbringing in America is beyond what many people have in other parts of the world.

She was very surprised when I gave her my number and asked her to let me know how she is doing or if she needed anything.  I felt humbled and immediately grateful for such a wonderful life.

Wednesday, September 26, 2018

Brand New

Sometimes, as we age, our true essence can begin to fade. A life that was once vibrant and grand can become subdued and pale. You continue on, day by day, with what needs to done and, in many ways, you feel like you are just going through the motions. When this happens, your spirit feels diminished.


After I turned 60, I began to believe that this new state of being was a natural progression and was simply a new pace that I would become accustomed to.


Rekindling the Vitality That I Lost



There were aspects of myself that I felt must be a thing of the past, something from my youth that was not part of who I had become. I was not unhappy or unfulfilled, but, I had lost a great deal of the zest I had previously felt throughout my life.


At the very moment that I needed it most, I met someone kind and gentle who helped to coax me back to my true self. With a little tender persuasion, I quickly responded to all of the life I still had before me and realized how good it felt just to be alive.



There is a Spanish word that describes this reawakening perfectly – “reverdecer” – to make green again, to revive.



Now it feels as if my spirit has been renewed and I have a sense of hopefulness that I have not felt in a very long time. All of the sudden, everything feels possible again.


It Happens So Gradually



We don’t plan on letting ourselves slip away, but, it is so subtle that we may not even notice. Time passes and, slowly, we lose some of the drive that we once had.


It’s not until something dramatic occurs that we remember how we once felt. Then we rediscover all of the enthusiasm that we still have in our hearts.


Just like a daffodil that lay dormant during the winter, in the spring it sprouts and comes to life again. It even bursts out of the snow with a beautiful, irrepressible life-force that cannot be denied.


Reconnect With What Makes You Happy


Do whatever you can to restore and maintain your vitality. It doesn’t matter what it is. It doesn’t matter how big or how small it is – if it brings you joy, you owe it to yourself to do it.


If you can’t do some of the things you used to do, then it is time to find something new. It is never too late to create the life you want for yourself.




Anything that makes your heart smile will breathe new energy into your life.



There are so many wonderful ways to continue to nurture and feed our spirit and all of them make life worth living.


How have you changed since getting older? What are the things you do now to keep joy alive in your life? Join in the conversation and share your stories!

Monday, August 13, 2018

Stronger Now

We are not victims - we are survivors.  What we have endured at the hands of those who said they loved us was tremendous, but it gave us strength we did not know we had and taught us that not only would we get through those difficult times, but we would thrive.

Knowing that even the worst could not diminish us is our greatest achievement.

There are very few women who have not known some type of assault, harassment or intimidation in their lives.  Holding onto the anger and resentment does not punish the one who hurt us, it only ties us to the pain.  If we really want to break free we must find a way to forgive them as well as ourselves. 

Forgiveness does not condone the behavior or change what occurred, but it gives us the power to release the bonds that held us.

It is time for women speak up and shine a light into the shadows that have concealed the truth.  We must stand together, support and encourage each other in a way only another survivor can.

Love and kindness can heal the wounds and help us be whole again.