I just read the blog post by Seth Adam Smith “Marriage isn’t for you” and was very touched by what he said. It is a lovely story of a son who is fearful of getting married and gets some loving and kind advice from his father who tells him “You don’t marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy”. What a beautiful thought.
Now, I must admit to being a 57
year old self-proclaimed women’s rights advocate with serious existentialist
underpinnings. Always fiercely
independent, I believed it was up to me to find and create my own happiness in
this world but in the past few years something new is immerging something deep
Perhaps it is a matter of
maturity, age, experience or all of the above but I see that it’s not the love
you receive but the love you give that is so important in life. When I look at my own children,
grandchildren, friends and even strangers I realize that the best and most
precious gift I can give is to just love them.
Just as they are, no strings attached, no expectations, just pure love
and acceptance. To want what they want
not for myself but for them. So, I couldn’t
agree more with Mr. Smith’s lovely article – love is not for me!