A year ago, my life was very different.
I was still recovering from a previous Covid-19 infection
and being treated for the atrial fibrillation it had caused.
I was looking forward to my follow-up appointments with my
doctors, hoping to discuss ways to improve my quality of life and, perhaps,
discontinue the medication that had caused me serious side effects.
After my check-up, the cardiologist agreed to let me stop
the medication—pending one final test to confirm that there were no other
heart-related issues.
That test turned out to be the one that literally saved my
life.
It wasn’t my heart, but a small nodule on my lung that
looked suspicious. That’s when the journey truly began.
After a series of additional tests and biopsies, I was
diagnosed with lung cancer. Because it was detected so early, the doctor was
optimistic—it was operable, and we would "treat to cure."
Those words resonated deeply with my daughter, who was with
me at the appointment at the cancer center.
In the days that followed, she continued to remind me of
what the doctor had said. It hadn’t fully sunk in for me yet. I was still
reeling from the news that I had cancer, overwhelmed with the memory of my own
mother, who had passed away years earlier from the same disease.
What ensued can only be described as stepping into a
hurricane—a force of activity, both physical and emotional, that pushed me
forward through this process.
Now, just a few months later, here I sit. Cancer free, contemplating what my new life
will look like.
Part of me feels like I should get back to my life, but
there is no going back to “normal”—not after going through that experience.
So now, I need to decide what I do want to do next. My
instinct is to shift gears and move forward into something new as soon as
possible.
The challenge is to just take a break and breathe. To
actually take the time to feel and process all that has happened in such a
short amount of time. To let what comes unfold organically and not try to rush
through this.
Right now, I am trying to find peace in the pause.
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Thursday, April 10, 2025
How Covid Saved My Life
Day 1:
When I first received the news that I had lung cancer, I
felt very sad. After several tests, we suspected it was probable, but I had
remained hopeful that it could still be benign. Now I had the answer.
Just hearing the word malignant is scary enough, but
then you must accept that you have just been diagnosed with cancer.
As tears ran down my face, I quickly had to pull myself
together. I needed to tell my daughter.
She is the one who has been by my side, giving me such
beautiful love and support, and she will continue to be with me throughout this
journey. The comfort of that is truly immeasurable.
As we talked and cried, a strange calm came over me. I
wasn’t trying to be strong or brave—I just felt a sense of peace.
Maybe it was the first stage of grief that everyone speaks
of—denial. But somehow, I felt like everything was going to be okay.
Day 2:
I wasn’t sure how I would feel this morning, but I actually
slept very well—better than usual, which really surprised me. I always gauge my
true feelings about something by how I sleep.
I’m very superstitious that way—if I have a major decision
to make, like buying a car or a house, or attending a particular event, I
always trust my instincts and follow the old adage: just sleep on it.
Any concerns or misgivings I may have tend to surface as bad dreams or restless anxiety throughout the night.
As a result, I was prescribed medication. After a year of being symptom-free, I asked my doctor if he would consider taking me off the medication.
Thursday, March 20, 2025
Clearing
It is Springtime in the Rockies and every year around this time I am filled with excitement and anticipation. I can feel the energy of new life making its way toward the warmth and sunshine. Native Americans called it the "Quickening" that time when life stirs just before birth.
This is when I begin my clearing to make room for what is to come. Mentally, physically and spiritually cleaning house, preparing for that wondrous new growth.
It is time to sort through everything that has been carefully stored away. I must bless and release those thoughts and things that hold me in the past so I can continue on my journey.
Sunday, December 8, 2024
Give Peace a Chance
Today is the 44th anniversary of John Lennon’s death. It's hard to believe that so much time has passed and how much has happened.
I was 24 and remember vividly the cold December day that it happened. It sent shock waves through my family.
It was 1980 and as I walked through my neighborhood, there was a large poster hung on a front porch, trimmed with Christmas lights, sharing John’s message “Give Peace a Chance”.
Saturday, October 12, 2024
Women's Rights in America
Throughout my life, I have witnessed what I believed to be the dawn of true equality for women.
However, my hope turned into disillusionment when I realized what a slow and painful path it would be. For every step forward, it often felt like we took three steps back.
Now, in 2024, we find ourselves at another pivotal moment. Our reproductive freedoms have been rolled back by more than 50 years, reminding us that the fight for equality is far from over.
It’s a painful reminder that our progress is fragile and that we must never give up our pursuit of what is rightfully ours - the Right to Choose!
Wednesday, October 9, 2024
My Choice
This story begins in early 1971. The Vietnam War raged on,
while the Civil Rights and Women’s Liberation movements continued their fight
against long-standing inequities in the United States.
Unmarried women faced significant discrimination when trying
to sign contracts or purchase property on their own. Abortion was not yet legal
except under very specific circumstances for adult women and not at all for
minors without parental consent.
At 15 years old, I found myself pregnant and being driven to
the doctor by my boyfriend for an abortion. He said this doctor would perform
the procedure without my mother’s permission, but I had to convince him that I
was mentally stable enough to make this decision on my own.
I was terrified and did not want an abortion. As I sat in
the room, trying to cover myself with the thin paper gown, I desperately tried
to think of something I could say to make the doctor refuse to perform the
procedure.
After an emotionless discussion and a very cold examination,
the doctor told me to get dressed and left the room.
A few minutes later, he returned. Speaking in the same flat
tone, he said, “I’m sorry, but you’re too far along for an abortion.”
I was overwhelmed with joy and immediately began to cry. I
now had to tell my boyfriend, who was waiting in the car. Knowing he would be
furious, I let him believe that my tears were because we couldn’t go through
with it.
A few months later, my daughter was born, marking the
beginning of my new life as a mother.
Now, 53 years later, the issue of abortion and women’s
reproductive rights is once again facing restrictions and is at risk of being
subjected to increased government control.
In 1971, I had no choice. If I had not been six months
pregnant, that doctor would have proceeded with the abortion, illegally and
against my wishes.
Implementing and upholding laws that protect women's rights
is essential for safeguarding our fundamental freedoms and opportunities. It
empowers us to make autonomous decisions about our lives and our bodies.
The choice must always be ours.
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Wednesday, October 2, 2024
Don’t Wait Until You Need To, To Get Your Affairs in Order
After some significant events this past year, I realized
that I have seriously neglected one of the most important responsibilities I
have to my family - estate planning.
Over the years, I’ve created a rough draft of my will,
gathered a few documents, and designated beneficiaries for accounts where
required. However, there’s no comprehensive compilation that would truly assist
my family in the event of my incapacity or death.
I know firsthand how painful and difficult it is to manage
someone’s affairs while grieving their passing. I don’t want to put my family
through that.
Now, after a not-so-subtle nudge from the universe, and in
the hope of not needing it for a very long time, I’ve decided to finally bring
all those bits and pieces together.
I began with the most manageable and least emotional aspects
of the process—household and financial information. I considered what details
would be necessary if someone other than my family needed to handle these
arrangements.
This approach not only kept it from feeling too personal but
also helped me be more thorough in listing the details.
Using documents I already had for bank accounts,
investments, property details, and more, I created a single spreadsheet to
consolidate the information.
After several hours, I realized how crucial this document
would be and how much time it was actually going to take.
At first, it was overwhelming, but it emphasized how critical
it is for me to complete this task and keep it up to date.
I thought, if it was
this difficult for me to organize all this information when I know it, how much
harder would it be for my family to sort it out after I’m gone?
After two weeks, I finally have what I believe will be a
workable document that my family can easily access to manage all the details
they will need.
These are the five categories I felt were most relevant, although
I keep thinking of additional details to include:
In addition to the spreadsheet, I have the following
documents:
I understand that laws in the U.S. vary by state, so I will
have these documents reviewed by an estate attorney and discuss them with my
family.
While I won’t be here to comfort them in their grief, I want
to relieve them of the additional burden of sorting through the details of my
life.
For me, preparing these documents is an act of love and
responsibility.
By organizing everything now, I hope to make things a bit
easier for my family during a difficult time, so they can focus on cherishing
memories rather than dealing with the details.
It’s my way of
helping them through a tough moment and ensuring my wishes are clear and
manageable.
Have you done your estate planning? What part of this experience is the most
difficult? Share your thoughts and
comments!
- Identification: Name, DOB, Social Security, Passport, Next of Kin
- Household: Property, Utilities, Mail/PO Box, Storage
- Financial: Bank/Retirement/Credit Accounts, Tax Accountant
- Medical: Doctors/Hospitals, Medication, Organ Donation
- Personal: Social Media and Email Accounts
- Will
- Financial and Medical Power of Attorney
- Living Will or Advance Directive
- Letter of Intent and Last Wishes
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